Your Student and Sex Positivity
All kids learn about sex. Whether in a public, private, charter school, or even through your homeschooling, most kids receive some form of formalized sex education. And if they don’t, they certainly end up learning informally about this part of our humanity and God’s creation. In today’s world, where cultural values on matters of sexuality have become so distinct from Christian family values, it is increasingly critical to consider the sex education your child is receiving.
Most sex education in today’s schools is “sex positive.” “Sex positivity” is a movement and perspective that endorses and celebrates all forms of sexual activity as positive, so long as both parties have given “consent.” This type of sex education has no boundaries. Age is no longer a boundary. Gender is no longer a boundary. Relationship status is no longer a boundary. Even types of sexual activities are no longer boundaries.
Sex positivity is responsible for a massive shift in our children’s sex education. It is concerning that sex positive standards like the National Sex Ed Standards, or sex positive curriculums that many New York school districts use, lead to:
- Young elementary-aged children discussing masturbation in the classroom setting with their peers and adult teachers.
- Middle school children are taught about sex toys and told they have sexual agency to decide whenever they feel ready for sex.
- High school children are shown pornography as part of lesson plans.
- Polyamory is celebrated as a form of sexual diversity, thus promoting to children that it is “positive” to have multiple romantic and sexual partners at a time.
- Middle and high school students are taught that that abortion is safe, harmless, and can be accessed without their parent’s knowledge or consent
- Under the guise of “diversity” homosexual sex is promoted and celebrated.
Sex Positivity is responsible for over-sexualizing our kids by changing sex ed classes to focus on maximizing sexual pleasure rather than teaching them how to stay safe. Sex Positivity creates a social pressure where young people think they are supposed to be sexually active because their teachers only discuss how to consent to sexual activity. They neglect to teach kids that it is okay to wait or even that there are multitudes of benefits when sexual initiation is delayed or saved for the confines of committed marital relationships. The focus is on saying “yes” rather than knowing how to assertively protect themselves from unwanted advances or pressure. Sex positivity leads to an over-emphasis on diverse sexualities and identities. It incorporates language where gender is so obscure that the terms ‘male’ and ‘female’ or ‘mother’ and ‘father’ are considered harmful, bigoted stereotypes.
Are you completely confident that your child’s sex education program is helpful and in line with your values? Here at the Center for Childhood Innocence, we suggest you request to review all sex ed curriculum in your child’s school. You can use resources such as stopcse.org to find out if there are harmful elements in your child’s sex ed curriculum. You may be surprised to find out that educators from outside activist organizations are teaching your child. These programs and perspectives are sex-positive and skewed away from traditional family values. Importantly, we also urge you to be actively involved in your child’s education. One way to do this is by opting your child out of sex education at their school. Teach your children this subject at home where you can guide their instruction in line with your family’s values.