During New York’s 2011 debate weighing how the state would legally define marriage, it was not uncommon to see the issue framed as one of merely love. Signs littered the Capitol that screamed “Love Wins” or “Love Is Love”. While these trendy slogans were compelling for a fawning media and fit well into a sound bite, they failed to recognize that government’s interest in limiting marriage has nothing to do with love.
Our organization warned then that if the state extended marital rights to same-sex couples that there would be no logical way to limit marriage the next time some special interest group came calling. If marriage was simply about “who you love”, then by what right does the state limit marriage to only two people. Why not three or more who say they love one another. After all, love is love, right? Even then, we heard voices within the many love movement that were anxious for same-sex “marriage” to become law, believing that it would advance their cause as well.
Unfortunately, the polyamory movement is already gaining steam. On November 11, 2018, the Rochester Democrat & Chronicle featured an article that puts a positive spin on open marriages (where one or both partners engage in extramarital sexual relationships with the approval of the other spouse) and even situations where multiple partners share a home together. Sadly, it is becoming increasingly common for couples to seek another partner to share their marital bed. Puff pieces like this are being placed in local papers to normalize a behavior that is anything but. Polyamorous relationships are physically, emotionally, spiritually and relationally destructive. They’re not advantageous to strong and stable marriages. When you undermine the exclusivity of the marital bond [forsaking all others], you erode the sacred trust that this lifelong commitment requires.
Polyamory is still on the peripheral edges of a tolerant society, but so was gay “marriage” not so many years ago.